Finding out you’re unexpectedly pregnant can be overwhelming, and the thought of telling your partner and family the news is likely only adding to your stress right now.
However, you can take steps to feel more prepared and gain confidence to approach the conversation.
This article will explore those steps—but we’re here if you’re looking for a safe space to talk beforehand. All appointments and resources are free and confidential.
1. Take Time to Process Your Emotions
Before telling anyone, take time to process your own emotions. Whatever you’re feeling right now, it’s understandable. Becoming unexpectedly pregnant is life-changing, so it’s more important than ever to think through how you’re feeling and why.
Writing your thoughts on paper can be instrumental in helping you sort through your feelings. While sitting down to a blank piece of paper can feel intimidating, asking yourself the following questions can help:
- What emotions am I feeling right now? (List them all out.)
- What specifically about the pregnancy is triggering these emotions? (For example, if you’re feeling scared, is the thought of being financially unprepared provoking this feeling, or something else?)
2. Choose the Right Time and Place
When you’re ready to talk to your partner and parents, choose a quiet, private setting to have an uninterrupted conversation.
Avoid telling your partner or family during stressful or busy times. Instead, find a moment when you can speak openly and honestly without distractions. For example, if your family and partner don’t work weekends, this might be the best time to plan the conversation.
3. Be Honest and Direct
When you’re ready to share the news, be direct but gentle. You might start by saying, “I have something important to tell you, and it’s hard for me to say, but I’m pregnant.” Sharing your emotions can help set the tone for a compassionate conversation. Whether you’re feeling nervous, scared, or uncertain, let your partner and family know how the news is affecting you.
While it’s okay to invite them to share how they feel, make it clear that you really need their support right now, and then tell them exactly what their support would look like.
4. Give Them Time to React
Understand that your partner and family may need time to process the news. Reactions may vary, from shock and concern to support and encouragement.
Try to remain patient, even if their initial response isn’t what you hoped for. Give them time to absorb the information and ask questions.
5. Be Prepared to Discuss Options
After the initial conversation, be prepared to talk about your next steps. Whether you’re considering parenting, adoption, or exploring other options, it’s important to have an open dialogue. Listen to their thoughts and feelings, but remember that the decision is ultimately yours.
Identifying what option you’re leaning toward and why can help you prepare for this part of the conversation. At the Pregnancy Care Center of Rincon, we offer free pregnancy options information appointments.
During this confidential, welcoming time, you’ll be given medically accurate information about your options and the safe space to ask questions.
You’re Not in This Alone
We understand what you’re going through, and we’re here for you every step of the way.
Want to talk about your feelings and learn more about your options before the big conversation? Contact us today to schedule your free, confidential appointment.
Pregnancy Care Center of Rincon does not perform or refer for abortions.